Comfort zone

People are generally very afraid of change, especially when they are in their comfort zone. I remember what Martin Jalleh told us, in an attempt to encourage us to break out from our cliques during camp and mingle with others, that "When you are feeling too comfortable (in your comfort zone), then it's a sign that you should change or make some changes in your life."

It's understandable. You are comfortable where you are, doing what you are doing. Why would you want to change anything? It's even more difficult to step out the longer you have been in that safe and 'warm' cocoon. You are risking that safety and comfort for the unknown. What if things turn out worse or not the way you want it to be?

There is nothing wrong about not liking and wanting change. But the thing is your life becomes stagnant. You don't progress. You don't move forward. You don't improve. You don't learn new things, don't make new friends, don't experience new things. You think that life is good now but what if life can be better?

The unknown is always scary. But you never know it until you have done it. There is an equal chance of things taking a turn for the worse and better. Of course, if you are wise and can make the right 'calculations', then perhaps you can tip the scale towards things becoming better. Life itself is a risk. Prof Raymond, in advising his patient to go for surgery, said "Everything has risks. Going for surgery has risks but not going for surgery has its risks too." (In this case, it means the patient will have to continue to suffer from intractable epilepsy that could otherwise be cured.) This is the exact sentence he used to talk to the patient, "Katakan puan nak pergi shopping, tapi kalau saya beritahu puan, puan ada risiko kena accident, puan akan pergi shopping jugak kan? Semua benda ada risikonya." (In this case, the risk of surgery is very minimal and the benefits far outweigh the risks.) Of course, we always have to weigh the risks versus benefits. If the risk far outweighs the benefit, then it would be dumb of us to take the risk after knowing so.

At the end of this, I realise one thing, that this argument/ rationalization which I have made cannot be applied to a marriage. Hahaha... Let's hope I don't uphold this principle in my future marital life, if I were to have one.