Paradox or irony?

The very person whom you want to impress is never impressed (by you). The person whom you think you like turns out to be unlikeable and the long-lasting friendship you now have is with the person whom you couldn't stand previously or whom you never even knew existed prior to this. The people whom you have known your whole life somehow never seem to end up as your closest or best friends. That person whom you want to attract just doesn't seem to like you but the person whom you dislike, in turn is attracted to you. The wish that you have been making for the longest time never seems to come true but that wish you never make (the unknown wish you never knew you had?) comes true instead. I guess that is when we always say a pleasant surprise? We never say an expected pleasant surprise, do we? The phrase itself is oxymoronic... expected and surprise? Not logical.

 Are all these just a form of balance in life or are these cruel jokes played on us in the hope that we may learn something out of them? Things don't turn out like we want them to so that we may learn what disappointment means and at the same time, learn to curse?  Things turn out unexpectedly well for us even though we never wish or pray for it so that we may learn to thank God? Say, you expect to be stuck in a traffic jam but instead, arrive at your destination in time. That is when you say "Thank God!" If we know there's no traffic jam and we are most certainly going to be on time, we never say "Thank God". What for, right? Instead if we turn out to be late when we expect to be on time, we curse.  

So what now? There's nothing we can do. I guess the difference between a happy, contented person and a grouchy, dissatisfied person is that the happy person remembers more of the pleasant surprises. And that sour puss remembers more of the disappointments.