Marriage, Sex & Having a baby

We had the privilege of being taught by this wonderful OBGYN lecturer, Prof Shirley Aye. She is the kind of woman I admire- strong, independent, poised, charismatic, a good speaker, strict with a sense of humor and someone who knows what she is talking about. You will be amazed to know how many lecturers who can walk in with that confident swagger and start sprouting nonsense from their slides which have been 'copy and paste' from wikipedia, with the hyperlink unremoved. Jeez...what are you guys thinking? Just because you have a Dr or Prof in front of your name doesn't mean that you can just bluff your way through a lecture. Pleasseeee....We know whether you have or not prepared for your lecture.

Anyway, going back to Prof Shirley, she talked about Sex, Marriage and Having a baby. She mentioned that these 3 things are very different.
Relationship simply means "I am having sex with you" and is ≠ marriage and having a baby.

Marriage= I am going to have sex with you and you alone. 
Having a baby ≠ Marriage.
Religion and culture aside, she mentioned that she is just being practical. She further told us that if we want to have a baby, have it between 20-30 years old, which is the best age to have one, physiologically-speaking. She reiterated "I am just saying IF you want a baby, I am not talking about marriage." LOL! 


I like her more because of what she said. It shows that she is open-minded and non-judgemental, the latter of which is a quality which I think is severely lacking in many. When I was in 3rd year, another OBGYN lecturer was teaching us about STI and do you know what adjective she used to describe those who are promiscuous? She used "those DIRTY women". I literally cringed at that word. I don't know if it was due to her lack of command in English or it was just how she perceived these women as. 'Dirty' or not, it is not for us, doctors or no doctors, to form such a judgement and to manifest it in such an outright manner. Like Dr Soo, the state paediatrician said, we have to use politically-correct terms these days and "Dirty women" is certainly a far cry from that.